Improve all of your relationships with the 5 love languages

When you speak someone's love language they will understand and love you more.

Although February is linked with "romantic love," I'd like to focus this newsletter to address love in all relationships because love makes the world go around! The amount of love we feel is linked to the amount of happiness in our lives. 

  

I was fortunate to come across this book in my late 20s. If I came across this sooner, perhaps I wouldn't have struggled so much in some of my relationships. Figuring out other's love languages, I was able to connect to so many more people, transform my relationships on all levels and become more compassionate, humble, and understanding.

  

For example, for many years I struggled in my relationship with my mother. To this day, my mother has never said I love you to me nor does she touch me very much. It's not common in Asian cultures for you to express your feelings or be affectionate. I felt no matter what I did, it was never enough.

  

My mother always provided whatever I needed. If I craved a certain food, it would be on the dinner table that evening. When I learned her love language is acts of service, I understood that was her way of saying "I LOVE YOU."  Knowing this, it brings me to a state of peace.

 

What is my love language? I'm bi-lingual with acts of service and quality time. Reflecting on my relationships, the closer and better relationships are with the people that do things for me and with me...this is probably why I'm always inviting people to do things with me! I'm learning to speak words of affirmation and physical touch much better, which I did very poorly. If you've had an airbrush spray tan from me, there is a reason why I guide you with my hand and pinch you! I also make sure you are comfortable and compliment you .  =)

(One of my best-friends Julie says spray tanning may be the 6th love language!)