Monday, February 11, 2013

Improve all of your relationships with the 5 love languages

When you speak someone's love language they will understand and love you more.

Although February is linked with "romantic love," I'd like to focus this newsletter to address love in all relationships because love makes the world go around! The amount of love we feel is linked to the amount of happiness in our lives. 
5 love lang book  
I was fortunate to come across this book in my late 20s. If I came across this sooner, perhaps I wouldn't have struggled so much in some of my relationships. Figuring out other's love languages, I was able to connect to so many more people, transform my relationships on all levels and become more compassionate, humble, and understanding.
  
For example, for many years I struggled in my relationship with my mother. To this day, my mother has never said I love you to me nor does she touch me very much. It's not common in Asian cultures for you to express your feelings or be affectionate. I felt no matter what I did, it was never enough.
  momma and me
My mother always provided whatever I needed. If I craved a certain food, it would be on the dinner table that evening. When I learned her love language is acts of service, I understood that was her way of saying "I LOVE YOU."  Knowing this, it brings me to a state of peace.
 
What is my love language? I'm bi-lingual with acts of service and quality time. Reflecting on my relationships, the closer and better relationships are with the people that do things for me and with me...this is probably why I'm always inviting people to do things with me! I'm learning to speak words of affirmation and physical touch much better, which I did very poorly. If you've had an airbrush spray tan from me, there is a reason why I guide you with my hand and pinch you! I also make sure you are comfortable and compliment you .  =)
(One of my best-friends Julie says spray tanning may be the 6th love language!)
 

Chuc mung nam moi! Happy Lunar New Year!

Chuc Mung Nam Moi1 Happy New Year!  

Actually Happy Lunar New Year, aka Chinese New Years! The Lunar New Years is the longest and most important celebration in the Asian Calendar. In the Asian culture, this is a very joyous holiday full of festivities, food, and superstitions. The first day of the year marks how the entire year will be. This was my favorite holiday growing up and now I'm proud to connect others to it so they can celebrate it with me.  I hope you find it fun and partake in some of it, if nothing else it's great small talk! The nerd in me put it all in one for you, so it's kinda long...  

February 10 marks the beginning of the year of the Water Snake. If you've already goofed on your reSOULtions, just start over here, you may have better luck. I'm sending you this early so you have time to prepare for it and send it your friends.   

Below are some traditions and what this year could mean for you.  

1. Dirty Doings
Put your feet up and relax. Certainly the most enjoyable of the Lunar New Year superstitions, sweeping and cleaning is strictly forbidden. Asians believe cleaning means you'll sweep all of your good luck out the front door.

2. Time to Come Clean
Before you can enjoy number two, you need to give the house a full spring clean, before putting cleaning tools in the cupboard on New Year's Eve.

3. Read Between the Lines
Be sure to stock up on reading materials before Lunar New Year, as bookshops will be padlocked tight. In Cantonese, book is a homonym for 'lose'.

4. Choppy Waters
Make sure you avoid rough seas in the new year by NOT buying shoes over the holiday period. In Cantonese, shoes are a homonym for 'rough'.

5. Balance the Books
If you're in debt, it's time to dip into your pockets and pay people off. The Chinese believe that if you start the new year in the red, you'll finish it the same way.

6. Ghostly Conversations
Caught round a campfire over the holiday period? No ghost stories. Tales of death, dying and ghosts is considered supremely inauspicious, especially during Lunar New Year.

7. Lady in Red
Lunar New Year is packed with colors, and while all the colors of the rainbow bring good luck, it's the color red that is considered the ultimate luck bringer.

8. Sweet Year
Hong Kongers have a sweet touch at the best of times, but Lunar New Year offers the perfect chance to raid the sweet shop, as eating sweets is said to deliver a sweeter year.

International Feng Shui consultant Marites Allen, said it is difficult to say exactly what the future of a particular person would be especially during the Year of the Snake which is regarded as an unpredictable being, but she recalled that the last time that year of the snake occurred in 2001, the World Trade Center attack in the United States and the ouster of then Philippine President Joseph Estrada happened.  "This is not to say that similar catastrophic events are indicated in 2013, but to be forewarned is to be forearmed.   

In fact, Allen said whatever good things that were started in 2012 even has a good chance of being carried over to 2013 "and could mean better prospects for us who are prepared to make the most of these elements." "The key is to continue to update our knowledge and have the proper cures and enhancers in place where they are needed."  

For instance, those born under the Boar sign are warned about having a challenging year in 2013 as certain mishaps and obstacles may happen while those born under the signs of the Ox and Dog are expected to have a good year in 2013 -if not better than what they had in 2012.  

Those born under the Dog sign are expected to have many happy moments and improvement of luck but must watch out for ill-meaning people while those under the Rooster sign may have some wealth luck in 2013 but must be aware of potential risks of getting robbed or physical harm.  

People born under the Monkey sign faces a potential improvement in their relationship but must take care of their health just like those who are born under the Sheep sign.  

Those born under the year of the Horse are expected to have an improved year in 2013 after suffering through a challenging 2012 but there are still some obstacles that may hinder their full recovery.  

People born under the Snake are expected to have a good year but faces waning energy while the Dragons are expected to have an improvement in their relationship luck. Dragons are also advised to stay low in 2013 though they could expect a better year than what they had in 2012.  

Those under the Rabbit sign are advised to watch their temper due to the presence of the Argument Star in their chart in 2013 while those under the Tiger must watch out for possible mishaps and mischiefs, including potential robbery problems despite having the Lucky #8 star in their chart which could bring wealth and good luck.  

People born under the Ox may expect a lucky year in 2013 like those under the Rat symbol who are in for plenty of good news due to the presence of income and promotion luck in their charts.

Allen stressed that forecasts are there to serve as guide and it is still up to the person to pursue their own luck and how they would live their lives.